When writing a wedding ceremony I try to look at each couples love story and determine what reading or poem may fit best with their specific love story. And not every wedding ceremony needs a reading or poem, but when they do, I have a few I've saved over time. Let us visit a one of my favorites.
To Love is Not to Possess by James Kavanaugh
I really like this poem because of this line "Love is to join and separate"
To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one’s self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one’s self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another–and to one’s inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon’s own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child’s scars
Or an adult’s deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are–and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.
Love stories are my passion