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5 tips for writing your own wedding vows

1/30/2023

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Write 5 tips to writing your own wedding vows
  1. Start by discussing why you love your partner and the moments that have been most meaningful in your relationship.
  2. Think of specific memories or moments that have shaped your relationship, and be sure to include those in your vows.
  3. Get creative with your vows. You can include jokes, poems, or quotes that are meaningful to you and your partner. 
  4. Make sure your vows are personal and unique. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable and honest with your feelings.
  5. Practice your vows out loud so you can be sure you won't stumble over your words on your big day.
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April 25th, 2022

4/25/2022

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Let’s talk about being a wedding Officiant. I offer all sorts of advice and tips to couples on how to have a great ceremony and where and the cost but I have not talked about how to BE a great wedding officiant. 

I’ve been officiating weddings for 14 years and the last 10 years this has been my full time job/passion. I typically perform around 125 weddings each year and I pride myself on the kind words couples have shared about working with me. I believe I have the experience and knowledge to now share with everyone else out there on how to be a great Officiant. 

Let’s begin with my top 5 commandments if you will: 
  1. I vow not to speak of myself 
  2. I vow to ask the couple to stand close to one another and to hold hands 
  3. I vow to ask the couple what they would like for their wedding ceremony
  4. I vow to recite the ceremony with warmth and kindness
  5. I vow to move out of the way for my entire closing statement including when the couple kisses
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  1. I vow not to speak of myself - I know, seems obvious, but alas for some it’s not. As the wedding officiant for a couple, they have hired you to perform their wedding ceremony which is a reflection of their love and lives lived up to the point of standing in front of you at the end of that wedding aisle. Now unless you have been their pastor or religious leader and know them intimately, their wedding ceremony is no time to speak of yourself, even if you are their friend or relative. The spotlight should always be on the couple.   
  2. I vow to ask the couple to stand close to one another and to hold hands - I can’t tell you the number of wedding’s I’ve been a guest at where the couple is standing what seems like 10 feet apart and I’m all for leaving room for the holy spirt, but this isn’t a middle school dance, this is their wedding day and unless their religion dictates, they should be standing close to one another and holding hands. There’s a few reasons for this; to allow for beautiful pictures and to allow the couple to support one another. It’s a lot standing up there in front of all those people, it can be overwhelming and holding your partners hands, yes even if they're sweaty can be just the reassurance needed.
  3. I vow to ask the couple what they would like for their wedding ceremony - my fellow Officiants, you can’t possibly write a good wedding ceremony with out asking the basics. What does the couple want in their ceremony? Sometimes they may not know and that’s where your expertise can help them find what is best for them. Do they want to share their love story, their journey to the aisle, do they want to include a family tradition or religious tradition? Ask the questions to allow yourself to writ a ceremony that suites the couple best and for goodness sake, send that draft to the couple before the wedding day! They are paying you to do a job and you want them to be happy.   
  4. I vow to recite the ceremony with warmth and kindness - you have a job to do and that includes reciting the wedding ceremony with warmth and kindness not standing and speaking like a robot reading from a screen. Practice the ceremony, say it to your dog, your family anyone who will listen and offer feedback. Practice your tone, the speed of your cadence and invoking emotion. You want the guests to feel drawn in and all warm and fuzzy when you’re done. 
  5. I vow to move out of the way for my entire closing statement including when the couple kisses - let me repeat…THIS IS NOT A WEDDING ABOUT YOU. Move, give the couple a moment to be without you hovering over them. Allow the photographers to capture a moment without you in the background. I’m sure the couple loves you but they don’t want you hanging on their living room wall, and yes even if you are a friend or family member, trust me, they don’t want your mug in the background when they kiss. Here’s my advice, pick up that whole mic stand and move to stand behind the groomsmen or bridesmaids and recite that whole closing statement from your now secret location. The guests have stared at you this whole time they know who you are so move! And stay hidden until they have reached the other end of the aisle. 

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3 ways to announce you've eloped!

1/31/2022

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3 ways to announce you've eloped! 

Let's start at the beginning, what does ELOPE mean anyway? Many years ago it was the notion, the idea that two people in love would run away and get married. Today however, the idea of eloping can really simply mean a small intimate wedding done anywhere. My version of an elopement is a small wedding 20 people or fewer planned 3-6 months in advance, but sometimes it can be planned even in a few days. The ceremony is short and sweet and the marriage is legal and stress free! Today's vision of eloping is meant to be cost effective and stress free. 

Once you've eloped you may choose to host a reception, a backyard BBQ or even just send out a lovely card to announce your newly wed life has begun. Here are my 3 suggestions on how to announce you've eloped! 

  1. At your elopement ceremony snap a picture of the two of you. Use that picture to create a card, with the simple words "WE'VE ELOPED". I suggest using www.basicinvite.com as you can upload the addresses and basic invite will address the envelopes and even mail them out for you!  This is the easiest and quickest way to get the word out that you are married. 
  2. Host a reception, have a gathering with your closest friends and family and when you send the invitation out make it simple and sweet using phrases like: "Join us for a celebration of your marriage" "We've eloped and it's time to party!" "We're married and can't wait to celebrate with you" 
  3. Social Media announcements - Update that status to MARRIED and you can even get a little crafty using sites like www.canva.com to create a cute elopement announcement with your picture to post on Facebook, Instagram or any other medium you choose. 
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The idea is to remember the reasons you chose to elope, to keep it stress free, financially feasible and fun! 
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How to Write your own wedding vows

1/11/2022

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Tips for writing your own wedding vows

Fun fact - that's my husband in the picture above. He's holding the vows that he wrote to me for our 10 year vow renewal. 

Writing your own wedding vows is a must for me. It's the advice I give to all couples, write your own wedding vows! It may seem like a daunting task, where do you begin? how long do they have to be? What do I even say? What are vows? 

Let me offer you 3 tips to write your own wedding vows. 

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​Begin your wedding vows with what you love and admire about your partner, list the attributes and dive into the why.  

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​Next, write examples of those reasons, share a story or two of a time when those reasons became reality for you. 

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Close your wedding vows with your promises or vows. Google is a great place to grab inspiration for the vows, to get ideas for specific wording, but let's take it a step further, once you see a great vow, make it personal, change it up to include specific things about relationship. For example, instead of saying "I promise to always love you" change it to "I promise to continue to show you I love you by always kissing you goodnight, even though we both know you're sleeping and won't know but you'll ask and get disappointed if I say no, so I will always kiss you goodnight" 



Make your wedding vows personal. Make them reflect your personality, if you are funny, then make some of it funny, but always include a sentimental moment or two, love is the highlight here. 
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