Let’s talk about being a wedding Officiant. I offer all sorts of advice and tips to couples on how to have a great ceremony and where and the cost but I have not talked about how to BE a great wedding officiant.
I’ve been officiating weddings for 14 years and the last 10 years this has been my full time job/passion. I typically perform around 125 weddings each year and I pride myself on the kind words couples have shared about working with me. I believe I have the experience and knowledge to now share with everyone else out there on how to be a great Officiant.
Let’s begin with my top 5 commandments if you will:
3 ways to announce you've eloped!
Let's start at the beginning, what does ELOPE mean anyway? Many years ago it was the notion, the idea that two people in love would run away and get married. Today however, the idea of eloping can really simply mean a small intimate wedding done anywhere. My version of an elopement is a small wedding 20 people or fewer planned 3-6 months in advance, but sometimes it can be planned even in a few days. The ceremony is short and sweet and the marriage is legal and stress free! Today's vision of eloping is meant to be cost effective and stress free.
Once you've eloped you may choose to host a reception, a backyard BBQ or even just send out a lovely card to announce your newly wed life has begun. Here are my 3 suggestions on how to announce you've eloped!
The idea is to remember the reasons you chose to elope, to keep it stress free, financially feasible and fun!
Tips for writing your own wedding vows
Fun fact - that's my husband in the picture above. He's holding the vows that he wrote to me for our 10 year vow renewal.
Writing your own wedding vows is a must for me. It's the advice I give to all couples, write your own wedding vows! It may seem like a daunting task, where do you begin? how long do they have to be? What do I even say? What are vows?
Let me offer you 3 tips to write your own wedding vows.
Begin your wedding vows with what you love and admire about your partner, list the attributes and dive into the why.
Next, write examples of those reasons, share a story or two of a time when those reasons became reality for you.
Close your wedding vows with your promises or vows. Google is a great place to grab inspiration for the vows, to get ideas for specific wording, but let's take it a step further, once you see a great vow, make it personal, change it up to include specific things about relationship. For example, instead of saying "I promise to always love you" change it to "I promise to continue to show you I love you by always kissing you goodnight, even though we both know you're sleeping and won't know but you'll ask and get disappointed if I say no, so I will always kiss you goodnight"
Make your wedding vows personal. Make them reflect your personality, if you are funny, then make some of it funny, but always include a sentimental moment or two, love is the highlight here.
Love stories are my passion