into the woods - weddings and nerves

Are you feeling nervous about your wedding ceremony? 

This weekend I stood with the sweetest couple who are so clearly meant for each other. But as many couples often do, they had nerves going into the ceremony. The groom especially told me that he often get's nervous and standing in front of a lot of people is not going to help. 

We talked about how to write the ceremony in a way that gave them the fewest speaking parts and I offered advice on how to settle into the moment and really focus on each other and that I'll be there offering reassuring smiles. 

As we moved through their wedding ceremony I could see both of them ease into the moment and really focus on each other. They would look at me and I would give them that reassuring smile and they did it, they made it through their ceremony with joy and happiness. 

While signing the license afterwards I heard the groom say, the ceremony was actually the calmest he had felt all day. The anticipation of the moment can be so much more overwhelming than the actual moment. Plus, holding your partners hand is such a reassuring feeling, it really does help. 

To all the couples who are nervous about their wedding ceremony I have this advice. Read your ceremony beforehand, make sure it is right for you, don't be afraid to change it until you love it. Then read it again, really know your ceremony and what to expect. Reassure yourself that its 20 minutes and you don't have to look at anyone except your partner if you want.