3 ways to feel good during your wedding ceremony

3 ways to feel good during your wedding ceremony 

Many couples share with me the anxiety they feel about standing in front of a lot of people during their wedding ceremony. It can be a lot to take in, the thought of all those eyes staring at you during your wedding ceremony. The nerves you may have for having to speak publicly, maybe you wrote your own wedding vows or even saying the simple "I do" seems all too much to you.  Let alone the the build up of anticipation during the planning process for your wedding, the actual ceremony itself can feel just so darn intimidating. Rest assured I can offer you a few tips to help ease those frightful feelings. 

1. Stand close together, facing each other and hold hands

I always guide my couples that once they have walked down the aisle, or even if you are not walking down the wedding aisle and perhaps you plan to begin a little more casually, stand close together and hold hands. Yes, even if your hands are sweaty and clammy, showing support to each other during your ceremony is paramount. And standing close together not only offers you a comfortable feeling but it's really great for your photos. A little hand squeeze or touch of the palm, or even kiss of the back of the hand can be all your partner needs to reassure them everything is going alright during your wedding ceremony. 

2. Take a moment to tell each other I love you

I know it may sound silly, of course you love each other, you're getting married after all. But everyone's love language is different, so words of affirmation are a safe bet. When you begin the ceremony, you're standing there facing each other, and typically I will begin by talking to your guests, this is your moment to talk to each other, take a quick moment to say "hello" or "I love you" or "you look amazing". Your kind words could be just what your partner needs to hear to reassure them in the moment. 

3. Take a deep breathe and look around 

If you are nervous, your instinct may be to simply stare at your partner and hold tight for dear life until the kiss at the end of your wedding ceremony. But I assure you, if you take a deep breathe, take a quick look around to see the amazing people that love you, the decor you so carefully chose and really take in THIS life altering moment you may feel just a bit more at ease knowing your community has your back and all that planning really did pay off. Plus, we all know a deep breathe can help you center yourself in the moment. Now, remember this is a quick look around, you don't want to be avoiding eye contact with your partner the whole ceremony...that's awkward.